Therapy for Men
Alright guys, let’s get straight to the point. I think I know some version of what you are thinking. You landed on a therapy website; you're already skeptical about whether therapy is for you in general, and now you're looking at a page of a bubbly blonde who loves pink, and you think that there is no way she can understand you.
Fair enough. Let's talk about it. I get where you are coming from; my appearance doesn’t really read “therapist for men” yet. I absolutely am, and in time you will figure that out. You don’t really have time to try someone who won’t get you, so stop wasting time.
My therapeutic style is direct, practical, and focused on real results. I don't do a lot of sitting in feelings for their own sake, but I won’t let you avoid them either. Strength is not actually about avoiding feelings. I'm interested in understanding what's not working, figuring out why, and building a concrete plan to change it. That approach tends to resonate with men, and it's reflected in the clients I work with and the outcomes we achieve together.
Why Men Avoid Therapy
The most common reasons men give for not going to therapy are some versions of the same things: it feels weak, it won't actually help, or they should be able to handle things on their own. This is a societal view about therapy and emotions. Asking for help isn't built into the male archetype, and we need to stop being so stupid about it. Therapy for men should be a bit different, but it can still be useful.
The problem is that the strategies that worked for a while pushing through, staying busy, not talking about it, shutting down, etc. These all stop working at some point, sorry to break it to you. People usually reach out when everything comes crashing down. It’s not too late, but the best time to start was yesterday, and the second best time is right now.
The men I work with are not falling apart or weak, no matter how much they feel like they are. They're just guys who have reached the limit of what they can manage alone and are smart enough to know that getting support is better than doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result. Be one of the smart ones; don’t let your ego or pride get in the way.
We won’t just dig through your childhood. We identify what matters, understand the patterns driving current problems, and focus on practical change.
Common areas of focus in therapy include managing stress and anxiety that are impacting work and relationships, understanding emotional patterns that are creating issues with the people you care about, communication styles that aren't getting you what you want (likely the opposite), finding balance between ambition and the rest of your life, and reconnecting with a sense of purpose or direction that got lost somewhere along the way.
What We Work On
What Sessions Look Like
Sessions are 45 minutes via telehealth, which means no commute and no waiting room.
You can take a call from any private space with the ability to join a Zoom call. I ask direct questions, and I give direct feedback. I won't tell you to just breathe; if that worked for you, I wouldn’t be your next call. I'll tell you what I'm seeing, what I think is driving it, and what we can actually do about it. You decide how fast we move and what we prioritize but I may call you out when you are avoiding something real.
The best way to know if we are a fit is a call.
So let’s figure it out.